Dear Dr. NerdLove,
I’m currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. We’ve been together for about three months and I’ve been constantly concerned about my girlfriend’s past. I’ve known her for around seven years and as long as I’ve known her, she has always been a conservative person. She always said that she wouldn’t get in a relationship until she was 18 and wouldn’t have sex until she was 21. However a year ago, one of her teachers, who was 26 at the time, started to pursue her, both in school and out of school. She fell in love with him and had sex with him over the course of three months. We’re both 17 now and she’s been telling me how she’s completely over him, but I’m still slightly bothered after seeing their texts and how a single person changed her from a incredibly conservative person to a very open minded person. Her ex is also much better than me, in bed or just as a person in general. Everytime I have time by myself I just get bothered by the fact that she’s been with someone 10 years older than her, at the age of 16.
I know this might seem normal to some but for me, a traditional Asian guy, I just don’t seem to be able to get over it. Could you please give me some advice?
Long Distance Dilemma