Over the last week, the Huffington Post broke a story about the practice of “stealthing” – removing a condom during sex without the knowledge of one’s partner. According to HuffPo – and the many outlets that boosted the signal – it’s a practice that’s on the rise, with online communities devoted to teaching men how to “stealth” others.
Now, while it’s arguable whether this is a trend or media outlets trying to make fetch happen, it is important that we talk about stealthing. Regardless of any secret cabals – real or resulting from the media outcry – stealthing does happen, and with great frequency. In fact, it’s happened to several friends of mine. The “growing new trend” may not be real, but stealthing is part and parcel of the conversation we need to have about consent, rape, sexual assault, and what we can do about it.