People tend to stand in the way of their own success. It’s something you see over and over again when you deal in self-improvement. One of the truisms when it comes to giving advice is that there’s always going to be someone who will argue with you over it. If you tell someone about the benefits of breathing, they’ll turn around and tell you about the dude they know who suffocated in 1972 and he’s been doing just fine.
The same is true with dating advice. No matter what advice you give, there will inevitably be someone who will argue about why it doesn’t apply to them. Now to be fair: most of the time, it’s assumed that advice isn’t going to be universal. When something doesn’t necessarily apply to you, then you can usually disregard it. However, there are objections and then there are objections – especially when it involves how to get laid. There are often more counter-narratives than there is actual advice.
As a general rule, I don’t address a lot of common objections to my columns. More often than not, I’ve actually addressed them in a related piece – and one I’ve usually linked to directly. The whole point of the blog is that these lessons are interconnected. There are reasons I throw links into every column like sprinkles on ice cream sundaes. Each column builds upon the others, after all.
However, there are certain objections, arguments and counter-narratives that come up regularly that are worth addressing.
There are legitimate issues and then there are excuses. And the problem is when we mistake one for the other. So let’s talk a bit about some of those arguments, shall we? Hang tight and read all the way to the end because it’s time for a bit of tough love.
Let’s do this.