Despite being more popular than ever, online dating still remains a potential minefield for social etiquette and self-esteem. The “rules” of online dating are, for the most part, unspecified and unspoken and prone to change without any seeming warning. What seems like a simple, intuitive choice can make the difference between a happy first date and echoing silence in your inbox. And with the constant deluge of hook-up aps like Tinder and Grindr, alternative dating sites like Coffee Meets Bagel and Why Don’t We and non-standard sites like MeetUp, the do’s and don’ts of online dating get more confusing and convoluted than a Choose Your Own Adventure edition of House of Leaves.
But that’s why I’m here: to help you cut through the Gordian knot of online dating mysteries. I reached out to the NerdLove readership on Facebook and Twitter to answer some of the most perplexing frequently asked online dating questions.