There’s an old saying I find appropriate when it comes to meeting women: “no plan survives contact with the enemy”.
That is: no matter how much you may have mentally rehearsed approaching that brunette with the librarian glasses at the party who seems to keep giving you the eye, or you’ve been thinking of how to talk to that ginger hotness in your Calculus class, reality stubbornly refuses to conform to the script. No matter how experienced you are – whether you’re an approach-anxiety afflicted apprentice or a master seducer – you will encounter moments where the unexpected happens or when things just refuse to go according to plan. You’ll be hit with inexplicable bouts of anxiety, there will be times when things suddenly and mysteriously go wrong or when you misread the situation entirely.
The key between utter failure and social mastery isn’t about avoiding mistakes in the first place but how you roll with them when they happen. Let’s look at some of the most common problems that crop up when it comes to approaching the women you’re attracted to.