Dear Dr. NerdLove: So, first things first: my partner (38NB, they/them) and I (28F) both have histories of abusive relationships. Their most recent partner before they met me was physically, sexually, and emotionally violent towards them; I had gotten out of a sexually predatory and abusive relationship with a much older man. We both understand…
toxic masculinity
Help, My Boyfriend Became a Right Wing COVID Conspiracy Theorist!
Dear Dr. NerdLove: I have been dating a white man for 5 yrs ( I am a black Woman). He is Republican from a family of Democrats. When George Floyd hit he marched in 3 BLM marches and helped to organize one in his hometown. Then he tried to read the new jim crow and…
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The Trouble With Defending Jeffrey Toobin
Every once in a while, the universe throws a curveball at us. We think that — even allowing for the stress of a global pandemic, a presidential election that seems to be the last stand between democracy and fascism, right-wing and white supremacist terrorist groups threatening violence on election night and politicians openly embracing gonzo…
How Do We Tell Our Families We’re Polyamorous?
Hi Doc – My wife and I have been together for 11 years and have 3 great kids. About three years ago my wife’s friend moved in during a tough spot and never left – we have been a ‘throuple’ ever since and she gave birth about a year ago. After our daughter was born…
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I Took The Red Pill. Why Am I Still Not Happy?
Hi, I’m gonna keep my name private but I truly hope that you are having a great day and I hope your writing has brought fulfilment to your life as well as in the lives of your readers. With that said I wanted to ask you a question, I essentially want to know if you’re…
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Dying To Be A Man
It’s said that times of crisis and trouble are what reveal someone’s true character. That we are most authentically ourselves in the times when we are tested, our support is ripped away and we are forced to confront hardship in ways we never do otherwise. It is in those minutes that we see the truth…