I really enjoy listening to your podcast and I like the advice you give on your website.
Over the last few years, I’ve reconnected with an old friend from university. We’ll have known each other for a decade this September. When I first met him and got to know him, I had very strong feelings for him but they went unrequited, so I got over it (eventually) and we became quite good friends.
When he moved to the same city as me three years ago, we started to reconnect. We stayed as friends and we’ve become closer than ever. We find each other physically attractive and can be very honest and open with each other about our feelings and relationships (even our sex lives).
Ever since the lockdown started, we’ve been leaning on each other for emotional support a lot more and we’ve even agreed to be each other’s back up spouses to appease the more “traditional” [read homophobic] members of our respective families as we’re both bisexual.
He has a boyfriend that he loves very much, but I think my old feelings for him are coming back with a vengeance. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve been in lockdown for three and a half months alone or if it’s because I haven’t been in a relationship since my last one ended about 4 years ago. All I know is that my attraction to him seems to be getting more intense.
Should I tell him how I feel or just stay silent? I care for him very much and don’t want to do anything to implode his current relationship. I’d hate to be the cause of anything bad happening in his life.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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