Dear Dr. NerdLove:
My partner and I are non-monogamous, and I know that it would be ok for me to be with someone else, but I’m scared to.
I don’t feel this way about my partner dating and I don’t get jealous. But any time I have feelings for someone outside our relationship I get filled with self-loathing feelings. I worry over hurting my partner. I feel like a traitor. I become scared of loving someone more than them or neglecting them for someone else.
My partner encourages me and wants me to date additional people if I so choose, and I want to as well. But I don’t know how to deal with these feelings.
What do I do?
Less Than Two