Dear Dr. NerdLove,
I’ve been dating a woman for about a month and a half, and things are great between us. She’s wonderful and kind and hilarious and the sex is amazing. Here’s my eternal struggle, though: I totally jump all in with new relationships way too fast. She and I have had many conversations about how to slow things down and be responsible about this, but no matter what we say, we end up spending tons of time together and are both falling hard. We’re both concerned that it’s all happening too fast but we also don’t want to limit our relationship when we’re both feeling this way. I mean, if this is just where our relationship is going, does it make sense to add artificial barriers? It’s to the point that we spend almost every night together and talk constantly all day via text. I’m starting to freak out a little, though, about just how much I like and need her. It’s all pretty intense.
Should we slow down? And if we should, how do you slow down when all you want to do is spend time with someone?
2 Fast 2 Curious