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How Do I Get My Twitch Crush To Like Me Back?

December 11, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Hi Dr.NerdLove

Back in december 2019, I joined a twitch channel to help develop my skill at a certain VR game and ended up sticking around that channel up until now. The person doing the streaming is an absolute sweetheart of a girl and helped me a ton with my life. Her small acts of kindness and genuine acceptance of my person gave me back my self-love, my self-worth and managed to get me out of a very long depression. We hanged out a lot in her discord server, she’d open up to me with her problems, with some of her desires and we would also play games together.

I’m sure you can see where this is going, I started to have feelings for her. At first, I didn’t really pay them attention, thinking it was not a real possibility because she lives so far away from me and kept that attraction buried. After around 10 months hanging with her and other friends of the community she created, the feelings grew to more than simple attraction, I was longing for her. I tried to approach her for a potential long distance relationship but it didn’t end very well. She said she wasn’t ready and that she’s a physical person and a distant relationship was not a possibility for her. I then spoke about it to someone else and it got her really angry about the whole situation but we managed to get over it and move on from it.

Now here’s the thing, that whole situation just showed me that it was more than just a longing for a relation. I am totally in love with her. True love level of love in fact. I’ve never felt feeling as strong towards anyone than what I feel for her. So I confessed those feelings to her at the end of november, that it’s actually love that I feel for her, not just attraction. She repeated that she’s not ready for a relationship, that she does not feel that way for me either. Still, I did something really stupid and I pushed it. I thought that the distance was the problem and that if I was willing to come to her (which I am), then maybe it could work. I asked her to give me a chance, I told her that love can grow between two persons. This caused her to actually burst into tears as she didn’t want to hurt me but really don’t want a relationship. She really do care for me but not in a romantic way… Seeing her hurt over this made me slam on the breaks, or rather, it made me divert my course into a brick wall rather than keeping hurting her. I love her with all my heart and it’s stronger than the very desire of being with her, I’d rather suffer than see her suffer from this…

The whole unrequited love made me have several mental breakdowns in the following day, I went into heavy crying for several hours, several times, silent screaming from heartache. The pain is very real and the only time I’ve felt something as intense is from the death of a dear one.

That said, I still want to be with her very badly, I don’t know if there’s any path for me to take that could result in that situation without her getting wounded in the process. She still want to be friends (very much so) and don’t want to end that friendship but was pretty clear that if needed, it will happen. I totally get that she wants to be left alone in that regard and I am not gonna make any direct move in that direction. I’d rather stay her friend than have her disappear from my life. Is there a chance she can eventually love me? How?

Is my love situation hopeless?

Thanks

Does The Heart Get A Second Chance?

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Episode #156 — This is Why Dating Sucks for Men (And How To Fix It)

December 9, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Let’s be honest: dating can be a trial. For a lot of men, dating isn’t something you enjoy, it’s something you endure. From trying to meet women, to getting a number, to actually getting women out on a date… it’s more like pulling teeth than meeting a potential partner.

Today, I want to give you all some advice I wish I had gotten back when I first started dating. Because, if you’re checking out these episodes, then the odds are good that, frankly, you think dating… kinda sucks. And in fairness: you’re not entirely wrong. Dating for men can be kind of awful. But not for the reasons you might think.

In fact, the biggest reason why dating can suck is because of how much harder we men make it for OURSELVES and in the process, make ourselves miserable… even when we think we’re doing everything right.

So let’s look at 5 reasons why dating can SUCK for men… and what you can do about it.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why men have a conflict mentality when it comes to dating
  • The secret to passing women’s “tests”
  • Why so much of what you believe about women, dating and sex is WRONG.
  • How guys get caught in a cycle of dating failure
  • Why you’re taking the wrong advice about how to meet women

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

How To Meet Women, Effortlessly

What Men Need To Know About Attraction

The Truth About Casual Sex (And Where To Get It)

This Is Why Online Dating Sucks

The Fear of Being Invisible

The Love Gap

Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex and the Truths They Reveal

What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Female Sexual Desire

Simplified Dating

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Episode #155 — The 5 Things That Make People Like You… Instantly.

November 18, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren’t popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of they make others feel and the value that they bring into other peoples’ lives. These 5 qualities will help you create stronger, more profound connections with others, teach you to be instantly charismatic and become incredibly well liked by everyone around you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why genuine likeability and personal magnetism are rare qualities, even in Hollywood
  • Why sharing the spotlight makes you more popular
  • How triggering one emotion in people makes them like you, instantly
  • Why passion is so attractive in others
  • How authenticity and vulnerability make people want to spend more time with you

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

These Are The Things You Only Learn When Your Friend Dies

Popularity 101

The Value of Authenticity

The “It” Factor

How To Be Charming

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Episode #154 — The Secret To Building Incredible Emotional Strength And Powerful Confidence

November 5, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you’re in a relatively good place, we’re all getting hit with bad news, more stories of police violence, political corruption, the continuing pandemic, even potential fallout from the election. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidence. It can be hard not to look around and say “how am I supposed to have the strength to keep going?”

But you need that emotional strength, powerful confidence and positive attitude more than ever. And the first step is to recognize the things that are stealing your happiness and sabotaging your life and learn how to build the emotional strength it takes to persevere, that appealing confidence and the positive attitude that can help build strong relationships and help you face and overcome the challenges in your life that seem impossible.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why one simple word can ruin your self-confidence
  • How we convince ourselves that we’re powerless… when we’re not
  • The mistake we make that makes us miserable… no matter what we do
  • How we talk ourselves out of success
  • Why your rivals can be your greatest allies

… and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

The 5 Things You Need To Know To Succeed At Dating

What “Forged In Fire” Can Teach Us About Manhood

Unlearning Helplessness

You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

“Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success”

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Episode #153 — The Secret to Stronger, Healthier Relationships

October 21, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you?

Maybe you’ve been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you into ways of getting what they wanted, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or would pressure you into going along with jokes at your expense or doing things that made you uncomfortable or went against your values.

Or perhaps you’ve had family members who would leverage guilt or reciprocity to make you do whatever they want, even if it’s a huge inconvenience to you or emotionally draining or even damaging. Or you were constantly being made to feel as though your interests, desires or wants were unimportant or inconvenient… even if it’s simply “don’t treat me like sh*t.”

One of the most important things you can do to ensure you have strong, healthy relationships — with your wife or girlfriend, your friends, your family or even your co-workers — is to have strong boundaries.

Today, I’m going to teach you how to build strong boundaries… and how to enforce them.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What one viral video teaches us about toxic relationships
  • Why abusers and toxic people prey on people with weak boundaries
  • How abusers trick you into lowering your boundaries for them
  • How to push back when people push against your boundaries
  • The most important part of maintaining healthy relationships

…and so much more

RELATED LINKS:

What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating

Enforcing Your Boundaries

How Do I Avoid Abusive Relationships?

How Do I Get My Family To Respect My Boundaries?

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