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Episode #153 — The Secret to Stronger, Healthier Relationships

October 21, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you?

Maybe you’ve been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you into ways of getting what they wanted, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or would pressure you into going along with jokes at your expense or doing things that made you uncomfortable or went against your values.

Or perhaps you’ve had family members who would leverage guilt or reciprocity to make you do whatever they want, even if it’s a huge inconvenience to you or emotionally draining or even damaging. Or you were constantly being made to feel as though your interests, desires or wants were unimportant or inconvenient… even if it’s simply “don’t treat me like sh*t.”

One of the most important things you can do to ensure you have strong, healthy relationships — with your wife or girlfriend, your friends, your family or even your co-workers — is to have strong boundaries.

Today, I’m going to teach you how to build strong boundaries… and how to enforce them.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What one viral video teaches us about toxic relationships
  • Why abusers and toxic people prey on people with weak boundaries
  • How abusers trick you into lowering your boundaries for them
  • How to push back when people push against your boundaries
  • The most important part of maintaining healthy relationships

…and so much more

RELATED LINKS:

What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating

Enforcing Your Boundaries

How Do I Avoid Abusive Relationships?

How Do I Get My Family To Respect My Boundaries?

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Episode #151 — The 5 Things You Need to Know To About Dating

September 23, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

The #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don’t know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn’t a checklist; having all the right “stats” isn’t going to magically make you attractive to women. Learning to succeed with women isn’t about having the right car or the right body, it’s about learning how to become your best, most desirable self.

That’s why this week, I’m going to teach you the 5 things YOU need to know in order to succeed with women, become the man you’ve always wanted to be and build the love life you’ve always wanted.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why the men who have everything women want still struggle with dating
  • How to build your dream life… by working backwards from success
  • Why attraction ISN’T about your body, your height, or your income
  • How to escape the trap of your comfort zone
  • Why your own brain tricks you into failing with women

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

NerdLove Academy Merchandise — https://nerdloveacademy.com/shop/

Book a Private Coaching Session — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/private-coaching/

Level Up: Facing Your Dating Fears — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/facing-your-dating-fears/

How To Take Your Love Life To The Next Level — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/level-up-your-dating/

“I Took The Red Pill. Why Am I Still Not Happy?” — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/i-took-the-red-pill-why-am-i-still-not-happy/

What Women Wish Men Knew About Attraction — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/what-men-need-to-know-about-attraction/

The Value of Failure — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/value-of-failure/

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Episode #150 — Stop Being Afraid Of Rejection

September 9, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Rejection hurts… but the fear of rejection can often hurt even worse. In fact, when we give into the fear of rejection, we often set up a pattern that can affect us throughout our lives. Rejections we’ve experienced in the past can end up affecting us NOW. When we give into the fear of rejection, we can end up reliving that fear, long after it’s happened… feeling the pain as though it’s happening to us again, right now. When that happens, it becomes a way that we almost give up our free will; life becomes a series of steps that you take to try to AVOID feeling the discomfort and pain of rejection.

It’s time to learn how to break the cycle and learn how to stop letting your fear control you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What science can teach us about rejection and rejection sensitivity
  • How our brains work against us and keep us in a cycle of fear and avoidance
  • Why rejection hurts, even years later
  • How a fear of rejection can CAUSE the very rejection we’re trying to avoid
  • How understanding your body can help you conquer your fear of rejection

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

Face Your Dating Fears

Overcome Your Fear of Rejection

A Man’s Guide To Improving Your Emotional IQ

This is What Happens After Meditating for 30 Days

How To Deal With the Awkward

Rejection Sensitivity and the Defensive Motivational System: Insights From the Startle Response to Rejection Cues

How ADHD Ignites Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

The Social Skills Survival Pack  Playlist

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Episode #149 — How Do You Know If She’s Right For You?

August 26, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightmare? Your partner may seem perfect, but it takes more than shallow commonalities to make a relationship work. Just because things are amazing in the beginning doesn’t mean that everything is going to work out on it’s own.

If you’ve ever wondered whether she’s “the one”, or you want to know if your relationship has what it takes to go the distance, then you need to answer these questions.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why people end up in cycles of relationships that SEEM great, but fall apart within six months
  • How “New Relationship Energy” can hide relationship destroying flaws
  • What you REALLY need to have in common to make a relationship last
  • Why the way you fight may be more important than your “love languages”
  • What sexual compatibility REALLY means

… and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

Are You Ready For A Girlfriend? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/are-you-ready-for-a-girlfriend/

Is She Right For You? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/is-she-right-for-you/

5 Questions You Should Ask Before You Start Your Next Relationship — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/5-questions-you-should-ask-when-you-start-relationship/

Are You Sexually Compatible? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/are-you-sexually-compatible/

How To Have The “Defining The Relationship” Talk — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/defining-the-relationship/

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Episode #148 — What Can Avatar: The Last Airbender Teach Us About Finding Remption?

August 12, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

It’s very easy to feel like you’re forever going to be defined by your worst decisions or your biggest mistakes. But while you can’t change your past, you can change your future. By examining one of the best redemption arcs in modern media, we can learn how Prince Zuko overcame trauma and earned his redemption… and find how we can learn to find our own in the process.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • How our response to trauma can shape our lives… and why it can transform us into different people
  • Why a desire for acceptance can turn people into villains
  • How to make a break with the past to build a new future
  • Why it’s so hard to make amends
  • Why you have to let go of your desire to be “right”

…and so much more

RELATED LINKS:

How Do You Find Redemption? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/find-redemption/

How Toxic Masculinity Hurts Everyone — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/toxic-masculinity/

Recovering From Failure — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/recovering-from-failure/

Why It’s So Hard To Be A Good Man — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/why-is-it-so-hard-to-be-a-good-man/

Solving The Incel Phenomenon — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/incel-phenomenon/

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