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Episode #147 — How To Talk To Anyone (At Any Time)

July 22, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

One reason why a lot of guys have a hard time meeting women is because they’ve put ALL of their focus on ONLY talking to women, and even then, only women that they’re attracted to.

The truth is that the most popular and socially successful men — the ones who do the best with women — tend to be the ones who talk to everyone. Part of the secret to their success is that they know how to connect with people  and build relationships that lead to the results they’re looking for, whether it’s networking, making new friends or meeting and dating new and amazing women.

They’re able to start conversations and talk with just about everyone they meet. And today, I’m going to teach you how.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • How you can start a conversation with anyone at any time
  • When you should approach people directly, and when you should use a more indirect approach to start a conversation
  • Why asking a stranger for a favor helps turn them into friends
  • How to get people to come talk to you
  • What the most socially successful people do that makes them instantly magnetic

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

5 Signs Women Want You To Approach Them

Never Run Out Of Things To Talk About

How To Get Women To Approach You

5 Secrets to Make People Like You

How To Be Charming

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Episode ##146 — How To Transform Your Life (With Arden Leigh)

July 8, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

What does it take to turn your life around? How can you learn to recognize negative patterns in your life that are sabotaging your progress? And what does it take to break those patterns and make positive lasting changes?

This week, I’ve invited my friend and coach Arden Leigh of The Repatterning Project to talk about how to recognize the patterns in your life that are holding you back and what it takes to transform yourself so that you can find stronger, healthier and more positive relationships.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • How we create and reinforce patterns in our lives
  • Why certain patterns and behaviors keep you from meeting your needs
  • What your moods and mindfulness can tell you about the patterns in your life
  • How your social circle can help transform your life
  • Why “Is this working for me?” is the most important question you can ask

…and so much more.

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About Arden Leigh:
Arden Leigh is the creator and facilitator of The Re-Patterning Project, a course in understanding the human operating system and repatterning trauma imprints and social conditioning in order to achieve creative freedom. Her certifications are in neuro-linguistic programming and TimeLine Therapy. She is also the creator and frontwoman of indie pop rock project Arden and the Wolves, as well as the creator and host of web series Peace Talks. She is currently at work on her next book.

Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/ItsMeArdenLeigh
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/ItsMeArdenLeigh
The Repatterning Project — therepatterningproject.com
Arden and the Wolves — facebook.com/ardenandthewolves
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Episode #145 — The Problem With “Nice Guys”

June 17, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Women often say that they want a nice guy, so why do so many of them think that nice guys are THE WORST? The trouble is that Nice Guy’s behavior works against them; what they see as positive and respectful is actually pushing people away. Here’s why being a Nice Guy drives women away… and why it can be so hard to STOP being a Nice Guy.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What “Nice Guy” behavior says about them
  • Why “treating her like a queen” is actually unattractive
  • How Nice Guys ruin their relationships
  • The #1 mistake Nice Guys make that “bad boys” don’t
  • What it takes to STOP being a nice guy… and why being a jerk isn’t the answer

… and so much more.

RELATED LINKS: 

The Science of Nice Guys and Assholes

Developing An Abundance Mentality

Eliminating Neediness

Where Do You Get Your Validation?

What’s Wrong With Being a Nice Guy?

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Episode #144 — Use This Mindset To Overcome Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

June 3, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Over the course of my career, I’ve dealt with a lot of people who haven’t had much dating experience — from people who’ve only had one or two girlfriends in their lives to literal 40 year old virgins.

They all had in one thing common: they had the same fears, beliefs and anxieties regarding dating and women that made them give up.

Here’s how to break through your dating fears, conquer your anxiety and overcome your self-limiting beliefs.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • How we project our anxieties onto other people
  • How self-limiting beliefs hold us back
  • Why our brains trick us into giving up
  • Why we give up control so easily
  • How to let go of fear

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS: 

Unlearning Helplessness

Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success

These Self-Limiting Beliefs are Holding You Back

Develop An Abundance Mentality

The Value of Failure

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Episode #143 — The Art of Sexting Like A Gentleman

May 20, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Sexting and knowing how to flirt over text is a skill that’s invaluable whether you have a friends-with-benefits relationship, a long-distance relationship, or if you and your partner are looking to keep things exciting.

In fact, knowing how to start sexting with someone the right way may be one of the most invaluable skills you can develop for keeping the spark in your relationship.

But you have to know how to get things started the right way.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • How to lay the groundwork to start sexting with your partner
  • Why the right text can be sexier than any photo
  • What to say to a woman over text to turn her on
  • Why most guys FAIL at sexting
  • What to say to start sharing pictures

… and so much more

RELATED LINKS:

How to Flirt over Text (Without Being a Creeper)

How To Look Good in Photos

What Women Want in Men

Take The Perfect Tinder Photo

F*ck Like A Gentleman

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