#11: Instagram-atic for the People!
Catherine: I think he’s trying to be “arty” and a little retro… but this is not a photo that makes me want to see more of this guy. I’m expecting that in real life, he’ll look like an uglier Russell Brand. He also seems kinda morose. He’s not smiling… literally a “long face.” I might respond to a message, but probably wouldn’t message him.
Emily: Ditto to what Catherine said, I would respond to a good message from him but I’m not going to email him first. Something about this photo makes me a little wary, although his hair is gorgeous he has a bit of the hippie/stoner/calvin klein mid-90’s heroin chic thing going on.
Caroline: This looks like a very 70’s photo of a pot-smoking hippie. The picture is a little far away for trying to look in his face to see if he’s cute or nice. He has good hair and definitely appeals to a certain kind of girl. She is interested in a guy who is into her scene and not so interested in having a job. It’s trying a little too hard to come off as deep or something. He looks bored. I like pictures better when guys smile.
#12: The WebCam
Kelly: #12, you look uncomfortable, at an awkward angle, and kind of confused, but okay with it. All of that gives me a creeper vibe, and I wouldn’t message you based solely on that. Try a photo where you look comfortable and relaxed.
Amanda: If there are other pictures of better quality on his profile then this is a good addition, but if this is all I have to judge on I would just say he’s cute and move on.
Jennifer: The webcam photo is not doing Steve here any favors. I think he wants his style to read as quirky and a bit eccentric, but instead the jacket looks too big on him, and the print on the shirt looks pasted in.
Caroline:I’m with Jennifer on this one. This sweetheart needs a mommy to tell him the following: Straighten your glasses. Put your Daddy’s coat back in the closet– it’s too big for you. Style your hair so that it’s not parted in the middle. Don’t slouch. Did you finger paint on your shirt before or after you took the photo? Put on a clean shirt. This guy looks really young and not pulled together. He should retake the photo in a better location. Right now, he looks like he’s living in his mom’s basement.
#13 A vs. B: Your Inner Blue-Steel
Jennifer: Just like #3, #13’s looking right at the camera, is dressed casually, yet neatly, has a hint of a smile, and the lighting compliments him and his home very well. The background suggests someone who is either tech or finance oriented, and the clean lines of his home show that he’ll probably keep it tidy, at least when he brings someone over.
Kelly: This looks like it could be on a poster in any college admissions office. I know its a pain in the ass to expect people to take candid photos representing their whole existence, but this very… safe.
Caroline: This is probably my favorite photo. You can see his face, which has a cute smirk. He looks approachable, clean-cut, and pulled together. If I liked the profile, I’d contact the guy.
Emily: Looks like a really professional shot and I’m definitely the type that tends to prefer (good) snapshots for dating profiles. If he messaged me I’d probably message him back. For this to trigger my interest if I was just browsing through the site a clever caption would help. This picture paired with the text “Mandtory promotional pic for our startup- I think I really found my inner Zoolander right?” would make me smile and hook me.
Catherine: Yay, he’s looking at the camera! Greg seems like a relaxed guy, given his pose leaning against the door frame. Crossed arms tend to convey a sense of defensiveness, but it’s understandable that he might have his guard up. They’re also crossed low on his chest, so it seems more of a relaxed than a defensive posture. He seems like he might be a bit quiet, but he looks like a nice guy. I’d message him, or respond to a message he sent me.
Amanda: I like this one a lot more. I get to see #13’s face and get a hint at something he might be into doing.
Kelly: Well since I’m engaged to a guy who plays pool very seriously, this photo got a chuckle out of me right away. I appreciate the cute little angle he has going. I normally wouldn’t be one for high-school-photo-session pics (see: #2) but I think between this and a pic of him shooting in a dark dingy bar, this was a better choice. Although depending on the amount of crazy you want in a girl, you might want the latter.
Jennifer: As part of a set, this photo adds a layer of broody/arty, without overdoing it. Add in the potential of a “behind the 8 ball” joke and you’ve got a guy who can be serious, but probably not *too* serious.
Emily: Its hard for me to be objective because I’m a sucker for pool. Between the innuendo, the option of mutal ass-checking-out, and my -ahem- slight competitive streak I would definitely respond positively to this one.
Well, there ya go, gentlemen! Ladies, have you any final thoughts?
Caroline: I wanted to see what the guy looked like. It was annoying if some affect was used to hide his looks. Gimmicks and arty stuff made me feel like the guy wasn’t okay with himself as he was, which made me less okay with him too. Men who are confident and direct are attractive to me.
I wanted to know if he knew understood how to be appropriate with a stranger. If he showcased potential deal breakers, like substances or guns, it made me feel like he would be equally open about that stuff with employers or my mom. I care about whether or not someone is ambitious and considerate of his public image.
I like a guy who is not too cool to smile, and I was looking for signs that he was happy.
The background mattered in terms of common interests. The kitchen photo, a nice house, or pretty outdoor scenery suggested to me that we would be comfortable or go to pretty places. A couch or an ugly room suggested that we would be stuck inside in an ugly place, bored. Similarly, pictures of “going out” made me think the person enjoyed an active night life. That might appeal more to a girl who likes to go out at night.
I looked for signs that a guy was acting age-appropriate. He should consider how old a mate he wants with how he stages the picture and grooms himself. A man’s sense of style says so much about how he wants others to see him and whether or not he takes himself seriously.
Catherine: I agree with everything Caroline said.
One caveat for me about the potential deal-breakers: I actually didn’t mind when they showed cigarettes, guns, or other potentially objectionable things, because I felt like they were being honest about it, and if I’m someone for whom that’s a deal-breaker, I’d rather know right up front, and not waste any time!