Yes, It’s Still A Creeper Move if Brad Pitt Does It

Most of the time, anyway...

One of the oft-recurring topics here at Paging Dr. NerdLove is the subject of creepers and creepy behavior.  It’s a seemingly evergreen topic because, frankly, there’s always an example of problematic behavior to point to and say “stop doing that”. Of course, as soon as anyone brings up the topic of creepy behavior, there’s the inevitable […]

What’s Wrong With “Taking The Red Pill”

"Take the red pill and spend a LOT of time yelling on the Internet."

You may have noticed over the years that I cover a lot of topics that don’t seem to fit squarely in this blog’s mission statement of helping nerds date better. One of the reasons why I write about feminist issues or bad behavior within the geek community is because, frankly, getting better at dating is a holistic system. As I’m fond […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Am I Too Fat To Date?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Doctor,  I’m not really sure how this works, but a girl in my econometrics class referred me to you. You’re also the only dating coach not on a hate group watch list.  I guess I’ll start with some background and follow with my problem. I’m am 23 and in my last semester of college. I […]

Dump Your Toxic Friends

"Hey, bro! Got any shreds of self-esteem I can destroy today?"

There’s a quote attributed to Steven Winterburn that I like: “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.” I find that many of the people I coach need to do this sort of examination, because we all tend to have a specific blindspot […]

How To Deal With Jealousy

How To Deal With Jealousy

Back in the bad old days, I did a lot of things I regret out of jealousy. Pretty much from middle-school onwards, jealousy defined the majority of my waking life. Everywhere I looked, other people had what I thought I wanted in life. Watching happy couples would alternately make me feel lonely and almost sick with envy. […]