How To Get Laid (Without Being A Fuckboy)

If you’ve spent, oh, any time online, you’ll have come across the term “Fuckboy”, especially when it comes to dating. In one of the more fascinating (if you like semiotics and lexicography) examples of linguistic migration, fuckboy was first popularized by Cam’ron in the song “Boy, Boy” and spread out from there to other artists’ […]

How To Overcome The Objection Mindset

It’s a new year, which is the traditional time to start deciding how you’re going to change up your life. As much as I’m a “New Years Resolutions are bullshit” kind of person, I am a fan of self-motivation and sometimes giving an arbitrary date emotional significance is as good a way as any to kick off […]

Overcoming Your Dating Inexperience

When you write a dating advice column, one of the inevitable questions that comes up is the idea of inexperience. For many men, especially as they get older, dating inexperience is a vicious catch-22. Women – supposedly – won’t date a man with little or no dating experience. Of course that then leads to the […]

Why You Should Fake It ‘Til You Make It

Last week I told you that authenticity was important. This week, I’m going to tell you why it’s good to lie. And no, this isn’t a contradiction in terms. Stick with me here, this will all make sense in a second. One of the things I regularly advocate, especially when you’re just starting to work […]

The Value of Authenticity

Let’s talk a little bit about authenticity and being authentic. It makes a lovely buzzword, doesn’t it? You hear about authenticity as a marker of quality or sincerity, an antidote to artificiality. We talk about valuing authenticity in our lives, but the way we live is almost always anything but. We live in a world […]