Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Fast Is Too Fast?

Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve been dating a woman for about a month and a half, and things are great between us. She’s wonderful and kind and hilarious and the sex is amazing. Here’s my eternal struggle, though: I totally jump all in with new relationships way too fast. She and I have had many conversations about […]

Eliminating Neediness

Neediness and clinginess are among the most unattractive traits a person can have. We have an almost instinctive repulsion to needy behavior. Consider the “ha-ha-but-no-seriously” humor of the “overly attached girlfriend” meme. For all the unpleasant wink-wink-nudge-nudge “women are so crazy” implications of the meme, the fear of getting caught up with a needy partner […]

How to Handle Being “Just Friends”

One of the biggest myths in dating – and one I can’t stand – is the idea that men and women can’t be just friends. In its own way, it’s perversely fascinating because it’s very much a Straight People Problem. The idea that sex will inevitably come between two people doesn’t seem to be an […]

Nerd Role Models: Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity

This week, we’re returning to the topic of masculinity and how to be a good man in an era when what it means to be a man is changing. And to look at modern masculinity, we’re going to take a look at a character from the past. A man out of time, even; dropped from his time […]

How To Get Laid (Without Being A Fuckboy)

If you’ve spent, oh, any time online, you’ll have come across the term “Fuckboy”, especially when it comes to dating. In one of the more fascinating (if you like semiotics and lexicography) examples of linguistic migration, fuckboy was first popularized by Cam’ron in the song “Boy, Boy” and spread out from there to other artists’ […]