How to Handle Being “Just Friends”

One of the biggest myths in dating – and one I can’t stand – is the idea that men and women can’t be just friends. In its own way, it’s perversely fascinating because it’s very much a Straight People Problem. The idea that sex will inevitably come between two people doesn’t seem to be an […]

Nerd Role Models: Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity

This week, we’re returning to the topic of masculinity and how to be a good man in an era when what it means to be a man is changing. And to look at modern masculinity, we’re going to take a look at a character from the past. A man out of time, even; dropped from his time […]

How To Get Laid (Without Being A Fuckboy)

If you’ve spent, oh, any time online, you’ll have come across the term “Fuckboy”, especially when it comes to dating. In one of the more fascinating (if you like semiotics and lexicography) examples of linguistic migration, fuckboy was first popularized by Cam’ron in the song “Boy, Boy” and spread out from there to other artists’ […]

How To Overcome The Objection Mindset

It’s a new year, which is the traditional time to start deciding how you’re going to change up your life. As much as I’m a “New Years Resolutions are bullshit” kind of person, I am a fan of self-motivation and sometimes giving an arbitrary date emotional significance is as good a way as any to kick off […]

Overcoming Your Dating Inexperience

When you write a dating advice column, one of the inevitable questions that comes up is the idea of inexperience. For many men, especially as they get older, dating inexperience is a vicious catch-22. Women – supposedly – won’t date a man with little or no dating experience. Of course that then leads to the […]