In my time, I’ve been lucky enough to make friends with a number of awesome women who’ve been in the public eye. From cosplayers to fetish pin-ups, burlesque dancers to lingerie models and the occasional reality TV star, much of their careers involved a heavy online presence. At the same time, being friends with them gave me a front row seat to the horny dudes hitting on them.
Of course, this behavior isn’t restricted to women in the public eye. Almost every woman with a social media presence and pictures online has experienced thirsty guys wanting to talk about how she makes his penis feel. Or the guys who precede trying to talk to women by going through her entire social media presence. Or just sliding into a stranger’s DMs and expecting to get a date out of it.
I’ve taught a lot of guys about how to talk to women, online and in person. One of the most common questions I get from guys is “how do I get this woman on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram to go out with me?” Now, if you’ve been reading my column for long enough, you know how I feel about using Facebook to try to pick up women. But as social media continues to become our main form of communication, it feels incumbent upon me to give some guidelines on how to thirst online responsibly. Here’s how you can talk to women online without being a creeper in the process.