Hello Doc, long time reader here. I think I have an unusual problem. I’m a cis, straight, white guy who during my teenage years (I’m 22 now!) used to be a Nice GuyTM, didn’t care about presentation and didn’t have many (if any) female friends. I want to make emphasis on how much some of…
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How Do I Handle This Cycle of Rejection?
Dr. NerdLove, This is absolutely the first time I’ve ever heard of you, but I read a few articles and thought, ‘Wow, I hope he’ll answer mine,’ because, while the articles I’ve already read do speak to some of the issues I’m having, I don’t think they speak to most of the issues themselves. Let…
Is It Ok To End A Relationship Over Sex?
Hey Doc, How do you know if/when to end a long-term relationship when everything is great except for the sex? How do you know when it’s irrational to keep trying to make it work? I’ve been dating my girlfriend Helen (not her real name) for 5 years, and lived with her for 3. We’re both…
How Do I Find Casual Sex When I’m This Ugly?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: So I was wondering how does an ugly guy navigate things like wanting casual sex or a friends with benefits kind of arrangement? A lot of these interactions tend to prioritize looks, but what if you don’t have the looks? I don’t know any examples of ugly guys getting anything casual, it…
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Why Do I Attract All The Wrong People?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’m a 28-year-old straight white male. I am a virgin who’s had some minor success with online dating in the past though I still haven’t gotten a full-on relationship. I’m kind of socially isolated: I have plenty of acquaintances but no close friends that I hang out with. Anyway, after having taken…
Why Do I Keep Wanting My Toxic Ex?
Hi there Doc, First time writing. I like the way you think, so I’d like your take on a really annoying problem. To make a long story short, I met this guy online about 11-12 years ago in a chatroom. I was in the middle of a relationship with someone else at the time, it…