Getting consent is a pretty big deal when it comes to dating. It’s not just about sex; it’s also about not continuing to intrude in where you’re not wanted. That’s why there’s always a lot of interest in trying to turn a “no” into a “yes”.
The problem is, trying to change someone’s mind is, in and of itself, a dubious topic and one that should be viewed with skepticism. When you advocate that somebody’s “no” doesn’t actually mean “no”, you’re going to piss a lot of people off. And rightly so. We already have issues with men not understanding (or ignoring) consent and who’re apparently cool with rape as long as you don’t call it rape. Throwing advice out there that suggests a “no” is something that you can ignore or that a “no” is a “yes” in disguise is disgusting at best and something deserving table-flipping rage in general.
Naturally, I have a lot of thoughts on this. So today, we’re going to talk about trying to turn a no into a yes and what it means to obtain consent.