Hello Dr. NerdLove,
I turn 25 in less than a month and I have never dated before. I intend to get stared in the near future. In high school I simply wasn’t ready, in college it basically got pushed to the bottom of my priorities list, and after college it took me couple of years to get my career in order and move out on my own.
When I start dating, I want to be able to present myself well enough that the woman I’m seeing won’t realize I’m inexperienced. I’m not saying I want to be dishonest about my past. I’ll be more than willing to reveal to her that I’m new to dating when the time is right. My goal is that when I do reveal this, she’ll be surprised to hear it since the dates went so well. Maybe that’s a lofty goal, but I want to do the best I can.
Is my goal realistic? What are some steps I can take in order to achieve it? What are some common rookie mistakes when it comes to dating and how can I avoid them?
Also, is there a good time for me to reveal to the woman I’m seeing that I’m new to dating? I’m assuming it wouldn’t be a good idea to bring it up on the first date, but maybe a few dates in? Or should I simply not bring it up unless she asks?
Thank you for all that you do.
Late Bloomer Ready to Bloom