How To Demonstrate Value

How to demonstrate value

Last week’s Ask Dr. NerdLove brought up a question that I hear from a lot of people: how do you keep a woman’s interest in you instead of all of those other guys out there? And the answer is actually fairly simple: you show your value. Now, I know a few of you are recoiling because this sounds like some [...]

How To Stop Fighting With Your Girlfriend (And Start Making Up)

And nothing says "successful relationship" like two people trying to outstubborn one another for the moral high-ground.

Here’s something that most relationship coaches aren’t going to tell you: fights are a part of relationships. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can learn how to stop fighting. Doesn’t seem like that makes sense, does it? Stick with me here for a second and you’ll understand. Relationships are kind of like Fight Club: [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Do These Women Ditch Me For Other Guys?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doctor Awesomepuss, really love your blog. I keep encountering this same issue with girls that I take on dates or girls who have expressed a certain degree of interest in me. The issue is they run off with other men in front of me. Examples: I took a girl swing dancing a few weeks [...]

What I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

5 Things I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

A large number of the emails I get for Ask Dr. NerdLove, both here and at Kotaku start off the same way: “I’ve never had a girlfriend”. Many my readers have a lot of anxiety over finding their first relationship. In fact, many feel that they’re essentially doomed because they’ve never seriously1 dated anyone before. They see the large [...]

Dump Your Toxic Friends

"Hey, bro! Got any shreds of self-esteem I can destroy today?"

There’s a quote attributed to Steven Winterburn that I like: “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.” I find that many of the people I coach need to do this sort of examination, because we all tend to have a specific blindspot [...]