Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Don’t I Want Sex?

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Hey Doc, I could use your help. I want to preface this by saying that, throughout the entirety of my childhood, my mother mentally abused me (even before she and my father divorced). She’d tear up my things purely because I liked them or my father’s side of the family got them for me, she’d [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Could I Have Saved This Relationship?

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Hey Doc, Okay, so I have a situation where I got involved with a girl who’s last relationship was abusive (emotionally and physically). We’d both just moved into college (neither of us is a freshman), off campus, second night we hooked up. That night, when we talked, she seemed very interested in making it into [...]

Wednesday Open Thread: Your First Crush

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It’s Wednesday, which means it’s time for the NerdLove readers to take over the comments section for the weekly open thread. This week’s suggested topic: first crushes. Everybody remembers their first crush from childhood… and for many nerds, it was actually a fictional character. So today, let’s talk about who was the first person to [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can I Just Be Myself?

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Dear Dr. NerdLove, It occurs to me to write for your input because of both of your interests as a nerd and a (former) PUA. For many, those two interests don’t go hand-in-hand, yet you seem to have found a comfortable balance. So here is my trouble. I have many different hobbies, interests, and values [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Am I Too Fat To Date?

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Dear Doctor,  I’m not really sure how this works, but a girl in my econometrics class referred me to you. You’re also the only dating coach not on a hate group watch list.  I guess I’ll start with some background and follow with my problem. I’m am 23 and in my last semester of college. I [...]