Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Don’t I Want Casual Sex?

 Hey Doc, I come to you seeking advice on my issue with casual sex. Currently I’m 27 and I’m starting to notice some issues when it comes to hooking up with girls I’m not romantically involved with. When I was younger (18-23) it was easier for me to dissociate feelings with sex. I would be […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Fast Is Too Fast?

Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve been dating a woman for about a month and a half, and things are great between us. She’s wonderful and kind and hilarious and the sex is amazing. Here’s my eternal struggle, though: I totally jump all in with new relationships way too fast. She and I have had many conversations about […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Can’t I Break Up With My Ex?

Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve been together with my boyfriend for a cumulative 5 months. We were head over heels for each other almost immediately. It was like something out of an Avril Lavigne song – he was a video game animator, she was a model, what more can I say? His father had passed away […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can I Explain My Kink?

Hello, Doc, So, I think I have a problem that quite a few people also experience–dealing with kink, especially one that’s rare, particularly strange by “normal” standards, or one that many people find outright disgusting. In my case, I’m a vorarephiliac. It’s not something I’m particularly proud of, and I don’t think any amount of […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Change My Feelings?

Hey Dr. NerdLove, I’m writing to you anyways because I really need your help. I’m actually pretty ashamed of my problems too. I despise the way I think and feel, yet no matter how hard I try to repress them, they just keep resurfacing. I feel like I have to repress them because if I […]