Ok, folks. It’s intervention time. I spend a not inconsiderable amount of time checking the metrics on my site. I see which pages get shared the most, which ones people check out the most often and which people keep coming back to. And I’m going to be honest: most of you are sabotaging your own self-improvement.
I write a lot about what it takes to get better at dating, and the cold, hard truth is that social success is dependent on being a better person overall. Dating is a holistic activity; the problems you have in your dating life are reflected in your every-day life. Whether you want to be a player and rack up dozens of sex partners or find the love of a lifetime and settle down, the secret to success is to build a better life.
The problem I keep seeing, however, is the number of people who’re looking for that one thing. They believe in that one thing that’s holding them back from the life they know they could have. It’s that perfect outfit. It’s losing weight and getting the perfect body. It’s the right car, the right lines, the right dating profile, the right job, the right apartment. They’re the ones who say “I can’t date because I don’t have X”. They’re the ones who worry about women who’re “out of their league” because they don’t have the right face or the right life. It’s the people who think that if they just get more dates, more girlfriends, more sex, their lives will be better.
They’re looking for that magic feather, that ineffable object or goal that will propel them into the life they’ve always dreamed of.
They’re the ones who will never improve.
If you’ve thought to yourself that you need this one thing to make your life perfect, then you’re ruining your own self-improvement. It’s time to let go of those magic feathers and start looking into what it takes for real self-improvement.