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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #49 – When Is Flirting A Bad Idea?

October 12, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 63 Comments

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There’s a time and place for everything, including getting to know amazing new women. But the fact that you’re attracted to someone doesn’t mean that it’s a good idea to try to pick them up. If you don’t understand the dynamics of flirting or the social context involved, you end up looking like a pushy jerk at best or a creeper and a predator at worst.

This week, we’re going to talk about the dynamics that affect when, where and how flirting is permitted… and when it’s a bad idea.

Show Highlights:

  • What most men never realize when they want to hit on someone
  • Why we root for the underdog hitting on the celebrity
  • How power-imbalances make even innocent flirtation incredibly stressful
  • Why the context of a situation changes everything about flirting
  • How to refine your social calibration

…and so much more

Related Links:

How To Not Be Creepy

The Art of Social Calibration

Socially Awkward Isn’t An Excuse

The Basics of Cold Approaches

Level Up: How To Get Women To Approach You


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